Each 'Choose-day' we will investigate the process by which we can reassess our activity and interaction with the world of plurality and become more congruent within our personality.
We are reading "Tips for Happy Living - jIvnsUÇai[ /jiivanasuutraani", by Swami Tejomayananda (Guru-ji). Choose-days writings are here to prompt deeper thinking on the choices made on a daily basis and seek to provide prompts for raising the standard of one's thinking and living. This text composed in format of Sanskrit traditional teachings, speaks directly to this purpose. As ever, the full text may be obtained from CM Publications - or your local centre (see sidebar).
Continuing, Guruji now ponders the question as to whether love is governed by rules.
parSpirkSnehivñase vtRmane ivixinyma AnavZyka>.3.
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Paarasparika-sneha-vishvaase vartamaane vidhiniyamaa anaavashyakaaH ||3||
Avidyamaane-pi anaavashyakaa yato nishphalaaH ||4||
If there is mutual love and trust, then rules and regulations are not needed.
In its absence also, they are not needed, because they do not work.
'Love Rules, Mistrust Fails' is, perhaps, the nutshell version of this! Once, a dictator passed a law that everyone should love and respect him. They showed their love by bowing in fear before him and giving him gifts to placate him. There was a priest who commanded everyone to 'love they neighbour'. A man changed his house in order to follow the commandment!
We cannot love or trust another by simple command; love happens when we identify with the object of affection and respect.
In the world, some rules are formed and written and some are unwritten. When love rules, there is harmony and no formal rules are needed. In a close-knit family, there are unwritten rules like 'each takes care of the other when sick, or on becoming poor, or just in sharing the chores'. Unwritten rules based on love and trust are strong. There was a time which such was there among whole communities and nobody had to lock their doors or fear for their children in the streets.
We find that laws are made, agreements and treaties are signed, constitutions are formed, rules are formalised, support is pledged, help is sanctioned and deals are authorised where love and trust prevail. Where they do not, however, these agreements do not work and there is strain and strife.
Love enables rules, but is not governed by them; where it is absent, any rules are anyway ignored.