Each 'Choose-day' we will investigate the process by which we can reassess our activity and interaction with the world of plurality and become more congruent within our personality.
We are reading "Tips for Happy Living - jIvnsUÇai[ /jiivanasuutraani", by Swami Tejomayananda (Guru-ji). Choose-days writings are here to prompt deeper thinking on the choices made on a daily basis and seek to provide prompts for raising the standard of one's thinking and living. This text composed in format of Sanskrit traditional teachings, speaks directly to this purpose. As ever, the full text may be obtained from CM Publications - or your local centre (see sidebar).
A student who has been paying attention will now be pondering and the questions will arise; "The Self in me is the Self in all. Then is not everyone like myself? As mentioned earlier, should I not be to them as I would have them be to me?"
AaTmvLlaekaNpZyeÚ tu twa _aavyet!.6.
Tae_y> SvatNÇ(< àyCDet!.8.
Aatmavallokaan-pashyenna tu tathaa bhaavayet ||6||
tebhyaH svaatantryam prayachcchet ||8||
Once should look upon people as one's own Self, but do not consider them to be like oneself.
One should not impose one's ideas of joy, sorrow and son, on others.
Give them freedom.
One Self, different minds! The Self in me is indeed the Self in all. Therefore we should treat all as ourself. In desiring to be happy, respected, loved and forgiven by all, so it is that we sould, in turn, make others happy, respect, love and forgive all.
However, it takes all types to make the world. Variety is the spice of life and all that! The quality of our mind, intentions, attitudes, likes, dislikes and beliefs differ. Each person has a different way of thinking and different opinions about things. Understanding this, we should not impose our likes, dislikes and such on others. We may like classical music, but another may find it grating or boring. We may like the colour orange, but another may find it irritating… each has the right to live according to their beliefs, as long as it does not harm others. One may be spiritual, another may not. Another may be a ritualist, another an atheist. We cannot insist on another being exactly like us; to do so is rigid, becomes fanaticism, dictatorship. We cannot consider ourselves superior, that our opinions alone are right, that our way is the only way and the 'gospel truth'. Each of us has the freedom to be as we wish.
Also, the mind is constantly changing. How can others keep changing their thoughts and behaviours to suit our own? Why should they? We shold respect others' right to their thoughts, behaviour and lifestyle. We can agree to disagree and live and let live. Only then can there be harmony in relationships.